Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
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Me: I am violently depressed.
Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!
Me: *signs up for yoga*
Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*
Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws
Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.
Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t
Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.
TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.
FUCKING THIS.
As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL
Exercise is fucking important.
good diet is fucking important
therapy is fucking important.
WHY???
because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there. suicides actually increase when medicated. why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself. which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.
it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours. that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE
STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS
^This!!!!!
The stigma that therapy isn’t worth it if you don’t feel better after the first couple sessions is such bullshit. It took me 8 months to tell my therapist anything personal but I kept going because I wanted to get better. I thought it was bs too when she kept telling me to think about other things and to distract myself when I have intrusive thoughts (not exact words whatsoever). Now it’s 2 and a half years later and I can successfully switch from thinking about all the ways I could kill myself to the song Slippery by Migos and immediately start laughing. You need to let it help you.
“Three Olympic gold medals. One World Cup victory. A pro league championship, which she won while three months pregnant, with Sky Blue F.C. Training through pregnancies and, for nearly a decade, balancing her job as an elite athlete with her job as a mother. Coping with Lyme disease, the Epstein-Barr virus and chronic fatigue syndrome, which doctors diagnosed in 2011, prompting her to eat gluten-free. None of her teammates have résumés that even come close.”
— NYT on Christie Rampone (x)
I am a regular athlete who knows that a talented person is one who can sustain the amount of work necessary to achieve their goals. If you can’t handle the work, you are not talented. I love work.
Mattie Rogers
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some of the most important health & fitness tips I wish someone told me when I started out:
- modify your moves. Don’t worry if you can’t squat down all the way or can’t run for too long, you can only get better from here!
- I don’t care what your hyperactive fitness instructor tells you - drink your water and take a break if you need it. you are not a machine. don’t destroy your health trying to get fit
- protein and carbs are your friends
- don’t ask random blogs on tumblr serious health questions you could look up or ask a doctor
- don’t try to match your instructor’s pace during a workout. It’s form, not speed. Do not compete with them. 10 good lunges > 20 sloppy ones
- don’t have weights? Find something heavy - a textbook, water bottles, whatever works for you
- IF YOU ARE HURT DO NOT WORK OUT
- IF YOU ARE TIRED AND EXHAUSTED DO NOT WORK OUT
- PUSHING YOURSELF TO “THE LIMIT” DOES NOT MEAN WORKING OUT UNTIL YOU’RE READY TO THROW UP
- Always do a quick warm up and cool down
- Treat yourself often
- forget workout clothes. You don’t need Nikes and expensive yoga pants. An old tee shirt and some cheap gym shorts will do just fine
- Stay hydrated
- Trial and error. Success is a bumpy road
- Do not compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter 10
- Fitspo posts and before & afters are great but remember you can be the same height & weight as someone and never look like them. You never know the full story behind that picture
- Try not to measure your progress in strictly numbers
- Calories do not reflect nutrition.
- Peanut butter is higher in fat but are healthy fats
- Fruits have natural sugar in them that your body needs DO NOT AVOID FRUITS
- 1200 calories is barely enough to survive
- Please do not do just cardio alone
- Quality over quantity. A 30 minute intense workout will always beat a half ass 2 hour elliptical workout
- Try different things. You may like running, you may not. Maybe yoga, swimming, dance, hiking, etc. Try things out.
- YOU WILL NOT BULK UP NO ONE ACCIDENTALLY BULKS UP
- All you need is your body to work out. Don’t stress over gyms
- Do it for YOU. Not the boys and the crop tops and the “stares”
- Rest days are essential. Take as many as you need. Never skip a rest day, your body needs to heal
- Losing weight does not guarantee happiness. It never does. Don’t put your other problems on hold to focus on your body, they’ll catch up with you ten fold later and it’s not fun
ALL OF THIS!
Thoughts are universally and not individually rooted; a truth cannot be created, but only perceived. The erroneous thoughts of man result from imperfections in his discernment. The goal of Yoga Science is to calm the mind, that without distortion it may mirror the Divine vision in the Universe.
Paramahansa Yogananda
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I once read “The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” To me this was important to read. Being fit and healthy doesn’t just mean going to the gym 6 times a week for an hour or two a day. Being fit and healthy can mean waking up early to eat a balanced breakfast, walking with friends, swimming, running, hiking, dancing, yoga. To be happy with your journey finding something you love and finding balance is major key. Listen to your body and find something you love and that makes you happy. Once you find that, then strive to make it a routine. You do not have to go to a gym to be “fit.” Listen to your body and love what you do.
- Wake up and open your curtains. Your windows too.
- Drink some tea or coffee, whatever pleases you. Notice every sip.
- Have some fresh fruit and finish breakfast feeling full.
- Stand outside and feel the air. Cool or warm, it will make you feel real.
- Get some exercise. Yoga to soothe, running to breathe, lifting for strength.
- Take care of your body. Have a nice shower and pamper as much as you want afterward.
- If you’re going to work, remember you have the chance to make anyone’s day or to ruin it. Act accordingly.
- Weed out the bad language. It’s only creating tension in your body and mind. Kind words are infinitely more appreciated.
- Take some time each day to improve your mind. Keep reading that great book. Listen to an incredible piece of music. Practice an instrument or a skill. The progress is its own reward.
- Pictures will help you remember how wonderful life is. But spend less time on your phone and more time seeing the world face to face.
- Go to sleep knowing that you have done well. Tomorrow is there with room to become even better.
-Notes to myself on how to become a better person this summer.
- No holiday diets
- No prom diets
- No wedding diets
- No restrictive diets
- No post-pregnancy diets
- No yo-yo diets
- No fad diets
- No
- Diets
- Ever
Just eat. Food is fuel.
Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.
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